Yesterday was the 4 year anniversary of my marriage to Sabrina. It has been a very passionate and (re)productive 4 years. We had a really great dinner at Cafe Margot in East Nashville. The service kinda sucked, but the food was able to speak for itself.
Yesterday I started to write a long post I have been meaning to write for a long time. I wasn’t able to complete it. It was very apropos given the meaning of the day yesterday.
Four years ago Sabrina and I were living in a committed domestic partnership in Washington, DC. The nation’s capital is one of the growing number of places that recognizes domestic partnerships. At the time we were boycotting marriage because many of our friends who wanted to get married were not able to do so. This was due in large part to Clinton’s protection of marriage act, which is ironic since some of these friends had held appointments in the Clinton White House.
Anyway, long story short, just before Zavier was born it was brought to my attention by a Juvinile Court Judge that I may lose some paternal rights if Sabrina and I were not married at the time of Zavier’s birth. I was weak and caved on our protest of marriage.
Anyway, since gay marriage has become an issue at the forefront of the American political debate the past year, it has really chapped my ass to see the ignorance possessed by most of the people pontificating about the issue. For a long time I have wanted to try to break it down in a way that can avoid a whole Roe v Wade style debate (where both sides are arguing completely different arguments).
Unfortunately I think it is a simple subject I could write an entire book on. Maybe I should write a series on marriage in general.
All I know is that I don’t have the time to do it right now.
Happy Anniversary Sabrina. I love you and am glad we got married. We can still work to right the wrongs of discrimination.
